Hadith - Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 50,
Number 882. Narrated Uqba bin Amir
Allah's Apostle
said, "From among all the conditions
which you have to fulfill, the conditions which make it legal for you to
have sexual relations (i.e. the marriage contract) have the greatest right
to be fulfilled."
The following examples of behavior of a husband are haram (prohibited) and can lead to disobedience (to Allah) in the wife.
Al-Bahuti al-Hanbali, Kishaaf al-Qinaa’ an Matn al-Iqnaa’, vol. 5, pp.
184, 290, 213; Ibn Abideen, Radd al-Mukhtar ala al-Darr al-Mukhtar wa
Hashiyah, vol. 3, p. 190; Tafseer al-Manaar, vol. 5, p. 76.
"He [the husband] may cause his wife different forms of harm, such as cursing her or her family, reviling her, verbally abusing her for the tiniest of reasons. He may insult her because of her family, if it is less prestigious or honorable than his. Or he may try to bring harm to her by divorcing her and then, before the waiting period is finished, bring her back as his wife and then divorce her again. All this is done without the intention of returning to a real married life but simply to harm her and transgress her rights. Or he may avoid having sexual intercourse with her for no reason or legal sanction. This may lead the woman to lose her chastity and doing something forbidden."
The Noble Qur'an Al-Baqarah 2:228
...And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allâh is All-Mighty, All-Wise.
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi, Narrated Amr ibn al-Ahwas al-Jushami
The Prophet
said, "...Listen! You have your rights
upon your wives and they have their rights upon you. Your right is that they
shall not allow anyone you dislike, to trample your bed and do not permit
those whom you dislike to enter your home. Their right is that you should
treat them well in the matter of food and clothing."
Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari 3.189, Narrated Abu Juhaifa
Salman told Abu Ad-Darda',
"Your Lord has a right on you, your soul has a right on you, and your family
has a right on you; so you should give the rights of all those who has a
right on you." Abu Ad-Darda' came to the Prophet and narrated the whole
story. The Prophet
said, "Salman has spoken the
truth."
Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari 3.501, Narrated Abu Huraira
...The Prophet
said, "The best amongst you is the one
who pays the rights of others generously."
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #276, Narrated Amr ibn al-Ahwas al-Jushami
Amr heard the Prophet
say in his farewell address on the eve of his Last Pilgrimage, after he had
glorified and praised Allah, he cautioned his followers: 'Listen! Treat
women kindly; they are like prisoners in your hands. Beyond this you do not
owe anything from them. Should they be guilty of flagrant misbehaviour, you
may remove them from your beds, and beat them but do not inflict upon them
any severe punishment. Then if they obey you, do not have recourse to
anything else against them. Listen! You have your rights upon your wives and
they have their rights upon you. Your right is that they shall not allow
anyone you dislike, to trample your bed and do not permit those whom you
dislike to enter your home. Their right is that you should treat them well
in the matter of food and clothing.'
[Transmitted by Tirmidhi]
The Noble Qur'an 5:1
O you who believe! Fulfill (your) obligations. ...